Welcome back cherubs!
I have a serious one today, I know I know.. BUT it means a lot to me that I get this out there! This is for everyone whether you think you’re fine or not and this will make sense why in a moment!
SO, Know your Limits.
What’s a limit first of all?
A limit is a point in which something stops, it cannot continue, it’s a cup of tea filled to the brim and you have to either tip or sip in order to make it up the stairs! (My definition of limit btw, surprisingly, I didn’t pull that from the dictionary).
Now humans are not wired quite the same as one another. Our brains are different by nature and nurture – the people around us, our environment, our era, genetics and so on – everything impacts on who you become!
So when I say know YOUR limit, I mean just that! It won’t be the same as mine and it won’t be the same as Brenda’s from next door bless her heart.
With that in mind people’s stress levels are different and as humans, we experience lots of different emotions every day.
These 5 steps help to realise how you’re feeling, why and what you can do about it. I also share my own story at the end if you really want to stick around! It’s why it’s important I get this out there for others to see!
1. Evaluate yourself
Take a step back and look at your health and situation. Would you say you look happy.. stressed? Look in the mirror and reflect (pun 100% intended, wow your welcome) How are you today? Why do you feel that way? Pretend to be a posh therapist and dig at yourself! You need answers, be honest and get it off your chest!
Admitting that something is a bit off is the first step to getting back on track!
2. Take time off (when needed)
When I was working; even if I felt really ill, I would go to work anyway out of guilt, the number of times my dad and partner told me to rest! Cor blimey! Even friends at work were telling me to go home occasionally but I pressured myself into thinking I had to go because I don’t like letting people down. Clearly, when you’re ill you need to rest. I let things pile up. Don’t do that, let yourself rest if you really need it!
3. Keep a diary
The tone of your voice says everything about the way you feel. Write how you feel in the moment and go back to look at your week – are all your weeks the same Negative Norman and Sad Susan? Then you need to do something about it! Get Positive Pat back!
4. Sooner than later
You need to realise your well-being early (if you can) otherwise you end up stuck in a rut. It’s hard to get out and you almost feel guilty that you feel so down and everyone else is having a good time not really understanding your stress. Sometimes the people around you may notice a change in you before you notice it yourself. It really can be that subtle.
5. Talk to someone
When I knew I wasn’t right I asked the people around me how I was – my family and partner told me the same thing they had been telling me for months. ‘I wasn’t happy’ but I just couldn’t accept it.. I finally realised that it was so obvious I wasn’t happy and that my mental health was now being stretched too far. Even when I did realise it took me a while to step up and do something about it! Talk to a relative, a friend and if you are really concerned; a doctor!
Why I made this post!
I had a major panic attack as a result of me leaving things too late, ended up on medication and getting signed off work. I was petrified because it was so not me! I’m normally a happy bubbly person and I let myself turn to a miserable git who was actually really broken.
I woke up in the middle of the night; the morning I started work again with what I thought, was genuinely a heart attack. I’ve never been so scared in my life! No one was awake and I couldn’t breathe deep enough to make a sound so nobody could hear me. I had to position myself so I was comfortable enough so that it didn’t hurt as bad and I could take bigger breaths! I was crying but had to stop because I couldn’t take the deep breaths in you do when you cry!! I sat for a good 45 minutes without moving trying to calm myself. Before eventually waking my dad up with a whimpered cry!
It was that day I finally did something about it, mainly because my dad was debating whether to get me to A and E. I rang the doctors and got help and there she said I had suffered a panic attack and I poured my heart out to this poor doctor! Honestly surprised she didn’t drown in my tears.
Don’t leave it late like I did. If you sense that you’re slipping away from who you normally are, do these steps! Know your limits. Turns out my stress limit isn’t big at all, I get stressed very easily! Maybe too easily actually! I’ll be writing a post on the 5 ways I take care of myself soon so that you can see my next part of the little journey I had!
It’s so important to put number 1 first! (which is you btw, not work or anyone else!)
Thank you for reading! Speak soon!